4 Hidden Mistakes That Keep You Looping In Circles

When was the last time

you found yourself wondering -

'why, even though I do everything to make it happen, 

fixing my life still feels so out of reach

and doesn't work at all the way I want?'

Was it today? Last week? Last year? Last decade?

It’s like no matter what you try to improve -

your wellbeing, relationships, income...

something keeps getting in the way -

>> "All I want is to become a better version of myself and live a nice, happy life. What keeps sabotaging it?"

>> "Why can't I simply love myself the way I am,

and turn my small and big dreams into reality?"

>> "Why can't others just do what I ask - no matter what communication approach I take?

>> How come I can't learn -

and avoid facing the same entanglements and challenges over and over?

Exhausting, isn’t it?

I'm sure you could add a long list of everyday frustrations.

Misunderstandings. Disappointments.

Too many things just don't work the way we want.

But let's see if this

will help you make a change:

Maybe one of these 4 deceptive traps

I keep seeing people fall into

on their self and reality healing journey

(it breaks my heart to see these crucial mistakes

because the resolutions are so simple and accessible!)

is something that you, too, can recognize and adjust?

And Instead of hitting the same obstacles

and looping in the same patterns again and again,

deepening the unhealthy groove

that evokes self blame, shame, frustration, despair...

you can finally make your life what you truly want it to be.

Mistake #1:

Lack of emotional regulation

To be fair,

most people don't know how to regulate their emotions.

This is not something we were taught at school,

oftentimes not even at home.

Emotions and feelings are the core of life experience

and affect every decision and choice we make.

Yet, most of us were expected to behave and figure things out,

and there was a very limited space, if any,

to share and process hard and painful feelings.

Emotions and feelings are alive vibrations.

They are the main generator of reality creation and manifestation.

But too often they were considered weak, or bad,

so we learned to repress them

and get embarrassed when they show up.

Instead of actively using them

as our greatest compass and steering wheel.

Mistake #2:

Confusion between 'self awareness' and 'self knowledge'

No doubt, self knowledge is essential

for conscious self conduction in the world.

However, while 'knowing' is what you already know,

it usually doesn't help to comprehensively avoid the next upheaval.

Self knowledge can say:

“I know I’m triggered because of my past.”

But awareness asks:

“What am I feeling right now?

And how do I choose to move, learn and expand with it?”

'Awareness' is the ability, the willingness and the enthusiasm

to realize, question, explore, transform, heal and evolve.

And to impact your reality both in real time

and through deeper processes.

Mistake #3:

Over relying on outside tools for the inner work

From all around us, we hear and are promised

that meditation, positive thinking, strong affirmations,

participating in spiritual retreats and adopting a healthy lifestyle,

if practiced enough,

will bring a life of consistent peace and harmony.

It is widely promoted, but in fact

the magic usually doesn't happen, or doesn't stick -

which ignites an almost uncontrollable urge

to try more and more new and promising

therapeutic and spiritual sessions and adventures,

in order to find a winning sedative

for the constant inner restlessness and irritation.

While all of the above is true -

these practices do support wellbeing, relaxation and inspiration -

the everyday triggers are still leading the show.

If they are not taken care of as an integral part of life,

they will show up soon after

the last extraordinary ecstatic event.

Mistake #4:

Setting boundaries by placing rigid barriers

The problem is that in most cases,

you will find yourself having to defend those important rules

every time they are not respected by others.

Or, in other words:

That your calmness and freedom

are dependent on others,

and on their willingness to cooperate with your requests

for legitimate space.

And what usually happens?

Instead of feeling safe and understood

thanks to the boundaries you have set -

you end up in exhausting conflicts and frustration

that lead to anger and disconnection:

• From yourself and your intention to live and thrive in peace

• And from those who dismissed and ignored your needs and wants

And how do you end up feeling?

- Drained, guilty and offended.

Real freedom can only come from following the Yes To Yourself.

From knowing that you are the center of your own world,

and there is nothing outside -

everything is a reflection.

From being cool with being yourself,

and putting yourself first -

not only in words, but from inside out.

From certainty and confidence,

and compassion.

Clearly, these attempts don't bring

the hoped-for deliverance.

But I'm sure you didn't need me to realize that, right?

So why do we keep repeating these mistakes?

(Why, actually? Have you ever thought about this?)

Simple answer:

Because we were taught that in order to fix

what seems to be broken,

we have to take an external decisive action.

So let me say it again,

because it's very important:

If the profound root causes are not taken care of,

those actions -

which can be the beginning of a wonderful change -

will not be the ones to bring a meaningful breakthrough.

If you don't change perception,

shift into creating and magnetizing

through your core energy and original powers,

if you don't recognize the source pattern,

open to facing, embracing and surrendering to

the deepest pains, hurts and unknown possibilities -

you won't be taken through a real transformation.

Through shattering and dying into nothing,

becoming peace, light, and love,

and getting reborn on the other side

clean, clear, elevated and liberated.

Once you do,

you realize you are the sole creator of your own life.

Manifesting the fulfilling reality you really dream of.